This is my conclusion after a decade of speaking to people in relationships.
I can't tell you how often people have uttered the words, "I'm not a cheater,"....but when my son's coach started texting me, it quickly turned to sexting.
Louise had low sexual desire.....for her husband. Tired of his irritable personality & financial control, the last thing on her mind was sex. She'd never entertained an affair. She wasn't a cheater. On a weekend away, she sought comfort on Facebook, messaged her college boyfriend, now a divorced man, she hit the sack.
Andrew, a family man was losing patience in his sexless marriage. After the birth of their daughter, sex & his wife's attention was off the table & he felt neglected. When Louse the savvy, sexy, sinewy accountant sent a LinkedIn message asking him how he was...it was over. That was the foreplay to the affair.
Relationship issues, unresolved conflict, sexless in a marriage & bedroom boredom are just some issues that may lead to temptation. But where are people going these days to seek arousal, desirability or sexual satisfaction? Look no further than that phone attached at the hip.
The new form of cheating may be the foreplay to full blown infidelity. It's called microcheating & it's about likes, hearts, IM, texts & sexts. And it's easy to do.
There is also a rise in technologies to support this new found online sexual satisfaction; invisible writing, secret phone numbers, apps that delete messages, encryption apps, aliases & more.
If you are keeping secrets from your spouse about your on-line love, it could be a fatal attraction.